How quick are we to form an opinion of a person, to come to a conclusion about them. It is satisisfying to the egoic mind to label nother human being, to give them a conceptual identity, to pronounce righteous judgement upon them.

Every human being has been conditioned to think and behave in certain ways-- conditioned genetically as well as by their childhood experiences and their cultural environment.

That is not who they are, but who they appear to be. When you pronounce judgement on someone, you confuse those conditional mind patterns w/ who they are. To do that is in itself a deeply conditioned and unconscious pattern. You give them a conceptual identity, and that false identity becomes a prision not only for the other person, but also for yourself.

To let go of judgement does not mean that you don't see what they do. It means that you reconize their behavior as a form of conditioning, and you see it and accept it as that. You don't construct an identity of that person.

That liberates you as well as the other person from identification with conditioning, with form, with mind. The ego then no longer runs your relationships.

As long as the ego runs your life, most of your thoughts, emotiones and actions arise from desire and fear. In relationships you then either want or fear something something from the other person.

What you want from them may be pleasure, or matieral gain, reconition, praise, or attention, or a strengthening of your sense of self through comparision and through establishing that you are, have, or know more than they. What you fear is that the opposite may be the case, and they may diminsh your sense of self in some way.

When you make the present moment the focal point of your attention-- instead of using it as a means to an end-- you go beyond the ego and beyond the unconscious compulsion to use people as a means to an end, the end being self enhancement at the cost of others. When you give your fullest attention to whoever you are interfacing with, ypu take past and future out of the relationship, except for practical matters. When you are fully present w/ everyone you meet, you relinquish the conceptual identity you made for them-- your interpretationof who they are and what they did in the past-- and are able to interact without the egoic movements of fear and desire. Attention, which is stillness, is the key.

How wonderful to go beyond desire and fear! Love does not want or fear anything.

If their past were your past, their pain your pain, their level of conciousness yours, you would think and act like them. WITH THIS REALIZATION COMES FORGIVENESS, COMPASSION, PEACE.

The ego does not like to hear this, becaue if it cannot be reactive and righteous anymore,it will loose strength.

When you receive whoever comes into the space as a Nobel guest, when you allow each person to be as they are, they begin to change.

~ Eckhart Tolle
"Stillness Speaks"